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What is love?

What is love? A question that is not easy to answer. Shakespeare wrote plays about it, King Henry VIII changed the religion of his country for it. War has been fought in its name, music composed in its honor. Scientists have dismissed it as a chemical reaction in the brain, while psychologists have categorized it as recognition or familiarity. But surely it means more than that? It is what keeps us going in troubled times, what feeds the soul and what can destroy us with grieve.

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For as long as I can remember, I have been fascinated with love and relationships. In particular, I have been obsessed with why some relationships last and others end. What is it that makes one couple flourish and see it through? These thoughts have become my preoccupation and study, I have sought to determine what gives relationships their strength. I have been interviewing couples who are in happy, successful relationships to help determine what is love? And what is the key to its success? And using the information I gather to help formulate some answers. ​

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Back when I was working as a barrister in England, I was outside the courtroom with my eighty something-year-old client and his wife, waiting for their trial to begin. They had been married for fifty-plus years.  I saw the beautiful interaction between them and couldn't help but ask, ‘What is the key to a successful marriage?’ Their advice was, never go to bed on an argument, sort it out and move on. I found this piece of advice more riveting than the trial itself and I started to think; maybe I am in the wrong job? And so, the idea for What is Love Tales, a collection of love-stories and advice, was born.

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Emmaleen